Choose Your Own Adventure
Maybe you are losing your words. Maybe you have too many. Maybe your thoughts are spinning when nobody else is even around. Maybe you learned to pause—and then discovered that changing your process changed a relationship too.
Pick one piece. Read them all. Wander in whatever order helps you build your own process.
Check Your Footing
Words disappear. Words multiply. Your body changes. You get louder, quieter, more certain, more defensive, or desperate for the last word. What are your clues that choice is getting harder?
Check your footing →Spinning Wheels
News. An email. A memory. A problem you cannot solve. Your brain keeps circling it, but thinking harder is not giving you anything new. Could that be a cord too?
Explore the inside-your-head Parachute →Something in the Backpack
The Parachute does not solve the Rock. It creates enough pause to give choice another chance to show up.
See how the Parachute works →Words for the Pause
You may not need a perfect explanation. Sometimes a few words are enough to stop the fall while you figure out what you actually need.
Try a few words on for size →A Quick Mirror Check
You know what happened to you. But have you started deciding what the other person thinks, feels, means, or intends? The Parachute can leave white space before uncertainty becomes certainty.
Try the Parachute Mirror check →The Parachute Becomes Too
You learn to stay. The other person learns something different. Then one day they need the pause you once needed. How do two people keep building something together when their processes keep changing?
Follow Jenny & Dan's changing process →Shared Language
What if one small word could mean, I wonder if you're losing your footing. Do you want the cord? Someone can point. The other Traveler still chooses.
Explore shared Parachute language →After the Pause
The problem may still exist. You may still disagree. You may still not know what happens next. So what did the pause actually change?
Look at what changed anyway →Not Quite Landed
Maybe one pause was not enough. Maybe your words returned and ran away again. Maybe you simply are not ready. Does that mean the tool failed?
Stay here a little longer →Feet on the Ground-ish
You may have an answer. You may have one sentence. You may simply have enough footing to choose the next thing you need.
See what you might carry forward →Trails Cross Here
You do not need any of these books to understand The Parachute. They go deeper into tools that cross the Parachute trail. Maybe you followed one already. Maybe something you read above made one of them suddenly make sense. Maybe none of them are what you need today.
Sunny Spots
The Parachute can help you notice that thinking or talking harder is no longer helping. Sunny Spots goes deeper into discovering what helps you settle.
Wander into Sunny Spots →House of Mirrors
The Parachute can create white space before assumptions harden into certainty. The Mirrors go deeper into the stories we write about ourselves and other people.
Wander into the House of Mirrors →Fences & Gates
The Parachute says, I need to stop. Sometimes a relationship also needs language for how much space is needed and how two people might reconnect.
Wander into Fences & Gates →The Rock
Once you have enough footing, you may become curious about the experience itself—what you noticed, felt, carried, and made of what happened.
Wander toward The Rock →Sunny Seats
The pause may not give you an answer. It may give you enough room to notice that more than one next step exists.
Wander toward a Sunny Seat →